Monday, August 27, 2007

a tale of two bums

Since I have been here, it has been a special treat to get to go out to eat. My grandmother (like many other Chileans I have met) has a live-in maid or nana, who cooks all of the meals and cleans. My grandma's "empleada" is named Luisa and she gets a day off every week, which is really our only opportunity to go out to eat. The only thing that thwarts this opportunity is that Luisa, being nice, usually leaves something for us to heat up for ourselves when she leaves. Even if she doesn't, my grandma is the type to say "We have rice and eggs, we can just eat here." Meanwhile, I dream of gourmet meals and salivate at the thought of even just eating Chinese take-out. (p.s. the Chinese food here is REALLY good.) I can't even tell you how many times I have offered to treat my grandma to lunch on Sundays and been turned down (ever so politely). You can imagine my surprise then, when today she declined a lunch invitation from my aunt so that my cousin, her, and I could go out to eat.

My grandmother lives in a part of Santiago that is considered to be very "cuico" (rich), and the street beside her apartment is lined with quite a few fine restaurants, many of which offer "executive lunches" on weekdays where you can get an appetizer, entree, beverage, and dessert for the equivalent of about $6. We chose to eat at one such restaurant called "Fragrante," even though we knew the special prices weren't running today. Since the weather was nice, we asked to be seated in the patio section of the restaurant, which was covered with a tent but had windows cut into the fabric. The three of us ordered pasta dishes and were enjoying them and chatting about going to the mall after lunch to buy my cousin a birthday present when a bum sauntered up to the window hole in the tent. As is the usual treatment of bums that I have observed here, none of us looked at or talked to him. He proceeded to tell us about his dental problems and how people don't give him money because they think he's an alcoholic and how he was hungry and everybody gives him bread and he didn't want bread, he wanted money. Now, I would have gladly given him some of my food, but the fact that he only wanted money was a very clear clue to me that food was not what he was after. By the time he finished his schpiel, the waiter came over to ask him to leave, at which point said bum became outraged and said the conversation was between us and him and he could talk to us if he wanted. While I stared really hard at my penne pasta with pomodoro sauce, basil, artichokes, and parmesan cheese, this homeless man started shouting obscenities at my grandma, calling her a conchatumadre (translate that yourself) and a vieja mala (mean/bad old woman). I felt so helpless and angry, especially because I know how good of a person my grandma is and how much she actually does to help the poor in Santiago. Eventually I shouted out "We don't speak Spanish." and waved him away with my hand, but he was too busy flipping out to notice. I don't really know what I thought saying that would do, but I just needed to say something. I guess I think I'm tough.

Anyway, eventually the bum left, and a few minutes later ANOTHER ONE came up. At first I got really scared because I thought it was the first bum coming back for more, except maybe with a stick or a gun, but it turned out to be a much more tranquil bum who just kind of mumbled and left without complaint when the waiter asked him to. Now, I don't know how most people would feel about such an encounter, but I am not used to being accosted by bums. Most of the ones I have encountered in Savannah and Athens are sociable and, dare I say, friendly when asking for money. Even most of the bums here do some odd task (like juggling at a red light or helping you parallel park) to earn money. And this, this had me sad and shocked all at once. The waiter told us that in this neighborhood there is no loitering ordinance and so legally they cannot do anything about the bums. He said there are quite a few that walk from restaurant to restaurant harassing customers, and apparently it is such a problem that they have talked to the mayor about it. Well, after all of that excitement, we thanked the waiter for helping us out, paid our bill, and started walking back to my grandma's apartment, a little shaken, but full of good food. Along the way, we crossed paths with the freak-out bum, who, oddly enough, didn't say a word or even acknowledge our existence.

It makes me sad to see the level of poverty here and the detriments of the very firmly set social classification system, but that was one bum I didn't feel sorry for. I do have to say that not even that run-in ruined my long-yearned-for restaurant experience. Almost nothing comes between food and me.

Monday, August 13, 2007

and just so you know...

as much as i hate capitalization, i am in favor of paragraphs. i just can't figure out why my posts don't show up with them, even though i manually put in 5 spaces at the beginning of each new thought. any help with this matter would be greatly appreciated.

I take back...

any time in my life when I have laughed at my mom's accent or made fun of her for it in any way. Why? because now that i am here in Chile, trying my best to grasp the language surrounding me, i realize how truly disheartening it can be. it is hard enough to keep all of the verb subject and tense conjugations, masculine/feminine endings and articles, and general vocabulary in line, and then add onto that trying not to sound embarrassingly un-chilena and basically my brain has to work at about 100 times its natural pace just for me to be able to communicate. i think now i have a better understanding of what my mom has had to go through to be able to speak english as well as she does. i would say the same thing about my dad, but i wasn't around when he learned spanish, and from what i can tell, it came pretty easily to him. i do have to say for the most part though, that everyone has been very encouraging in their comments to me about my progress with spanish, and i do feel like i am getting better and better at it everyday. after being here for 2 months, the words are starting to flow a little easier, i don't have to think as much about what i want to say, and maybe, just maybe, i even have a little less pronounced accent. just today, 3 separate people at the university complimented me on how good my spanish was, especially in comparison with other exchange students. i would be lying if i said that didn't make me feel good, but i also would be lying if i said i always knew what tense i was supposed to be speaking in. haha.
every now and then i will overhear a conversation or someone will ask me a question in a format i am not used to, and suddenly i start to feel like i don't know any spanish at all. as if that isn't bad enough, my tongue also has this uncanny knack of turning into a taste-bud covered brick at the times when i need it most (this also happens to me when speaking english haha). despite these things, i am coming to terms with the facts that there will probably be many more times when i will look and sound like a blithering idiot, and that i will probably always have an accent, but i am really starting to see that none of that really matters if i am able to get my point across clearly most of the time.
and so, in closing, i direct this to my mom: thank you for always putting up with us when we laugh at the way you say things. none of us (except daddy, who doesn't make fun of you) can even dare to say that we know half of much spanish as you do english, and i am very proud of both you and daddy for how well you have mastered your second languages. so next the time we ask you to say "focus" or "yellow," you just remind me of this blog entry and i will shut up. former girl scout's honor.

Thursday, August 09, 2007

mostly superficial social observations about santiago, chile, and south america in general:

disclaimer: i realize that these observations are very shallow, but just know that in no way do they portray the full chilean reality. the longer i'm here the better they should get.

-in santiago at least, there are about 800 kajillion pharmacies. i'm not really sure why.
-pretty much everyone here drinks "coke light" or coke zero
-very very lucky people have 2 cars max per family, for a teenager to have his or her own car here is almost unheard of
-not really sure if the toilet flushes in the opposite direction, as i can't remember which way it flushes in the northern hemisphere
-chilean people are hardcore about drinking. like they could probably put frat boys to shame.
-i am realizing that a lot of my traits come from my mom's side of the family, like my addiction to chocolate, fear of heights, and inability to do mental math.
-latin american mtv is hilarious and ridiculous. if you don't believe me then look at this link. this is really a show. http://www.mtvla.com/canal/dansinropa/?_requestid=453837
-after about 1 a.m. soft porn and general nakedness are fair game on cable tv. so far i have witnessed girls next door and dr. 90210 without the blurs and i saw a movie that afterwards i learned was rated nc-17 in the u.s.
-Can't find parking? See an unnocupied curb? It's totally fair game! Just hop on up it, and pretend you don't hear your car's underbelly scraping on anything.
-on this side of the equator, fanny packs are still in and in a big way. It is the accessory of choice for men, and women can often be seen with one slung over their shoulder like a purse. Given the tight quarters of metros and micros, and the probability of pickpocketing, the fanny pack is not only aesthetically pleasing to Chileans but highly practical.
-rotondas (a.k.a. traffic circles) should be renamed ellipses of certain doom. all caution, judgment, and concept of traffic laws are thrown to the wind when one enters these things, and all that can be done is to pray to come out alive and on the intended street. it feels like anarchy.
-game show prizes are a lot smaller and a lot less exciting. their version of who wants to be a millionaire features a grand prize of about $220,000 USD. still nice, but not a million.
-in the mall i saw a stand that had the ends of various cell phone chargers sticking out of it. it costs nothing just to hook your cell phone up to it and let it charge. i would say that somebody should start one of these in the u.s., but i doubt it will happen since there isn't any money in it.
-a guy here has started a company where you order movies online and they are delivered to your house within the hour. doesn't sound so special right? except that you can also order food, wine, beer, baby diapers, etc. the other night i ordered a 5 day movie rental, popcorn, and a 2-person serving of frozen cannelonis and it ran me around $14 (or $7.000 pesos). not so bad.
-there are emo kids here too. God help them. actually the version of them here is more mixed with a rapper style. like tight jeans except for in the butt area where they are sagged enough to see underwear. i can't recall if i ever saw that in the states.

Chile is as funny as it is great.

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

hi everyone! i don't have class until 3 tomorrow (my first class got cancelled) and since i am going to stay up later, i thought i would write a little update. so i have been in classes a little over a week now. after making a few changes to my schedule, i think i have finally found one i will stick with, and i will only have classes tuesdays, wednesdays, and thursdays! i am taking 3 classes as opposed to the 4 i had planned to take, but i think i would rather take one fewer class and be able to have more fun while i am here. anyway, i have so few classes left to take before i graduate that one more class next semester shouldn't be too bad. i am still in the chilean anthropology class with antonia (which involves a lot of reading) and also in a radio narration class and an audiovisual critique class. i can't say that i always understand everything that the teachers and students are saying, but hopefully that will improve the longer i am here. i have already made a few friends, and i'm sure talking with them will also help me.
in other news, my family left last week, and now i am alone in a very quiet house with my grandma and her maid luisa. i haven't had a chance to get too lonely because i DO have like 18 aunts and uncles and 35 cousins, and quite a few of them have been good about calling me and making plans. i know there will be times when i will probably get really homesick, especially when i already miss my family a lot, but i also feel like now the real part of my experience here is starting. i wasn't practicing my spanish as much with all of my siblings around, and now i am the only native english speaker i know. hopefully when we reunite just before christmas (which will be great in itself) i will be as close to fluent as is possible in 6 months time.
even though i am sad about my family leaving, one thing that brightened my week was that mike bought his ticket to come visit me. he will get here september 15th and will stay until the 29th. the best thing is that he will be here for the chilean independence day on the 18th. i have never been in chile for "el 18" before and i am really excited that mike and i will get to experience that together. besides that, i have a whole list of places i want to take him and things i want to show him. this will be the first time that i have been able to show chile to someone outside my family (with the exception of aj, but it was more andrea's responsibility to show him around) and i cannot wait!
i would also like to report that the thing that got me out of bed this morning was... a tremor! that it is the 3rd one that has happened since i got here in june. i have always known that chile has a lot of seismic activity, but tremors happen a lot more frequently than i had thought. my grandma's apartment kind of shakes a lot to begin with, because of all of the buses that pass by.(don't worry, almost all of the buildings in chile are built with seismic activity in mind), but now i am getting kind of paranoid that everything is a tremor. haha. actually in some weird way, i look forward to them because they are kind of cool as long as they are SMALL (!)
other than that, today it snowed in santiago for the first time in 40 odd years. unfortunately it didn't snow where my grandma lives so all i got to experience was the nasty cold wet weather, but it is supposed to snow well into the wee hours of the night. i am hoping it will stick and i will get to play in it tomorrow on my way to class!
well, i think that it is enough of an update for now. i actually have no idea who reads this, so if you (whoever you may be) wouldn't mind leaving me a comment i would greatly appreciate it. hope everyone is well. besitos!